All The Answers

On the internet, an expert is the person with all the answers.

The best way to start any enterprise. The seven steps required to carry it out, the five benchmarks to measure your progress, etc.

In life however, a better measurement of mastery is not the quantity of answers you possess, but rather the quality of your questions.

For example:

Am I making a genuine contribution to society or merely helping myself at the expense of others?

How much does what I am doing cost, in the way of time, personal relationships, or family?

How much will it matter five years from now? What about after I’m dead?

How do I define success anyway?

The difference between these two approaches is not merely the difference between net and reality, it is the difference between knowledge and wisdom.

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I know that being a humor site, serious thoughts are not really what you were expecting here. But what can I say, it happens.

Happy Monday.

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55 Comments »

Comment by Chris non-C
2008-03-03 22:21:46

I hope this doesn’t mean you are contemplating an ominous ending….. to the blog, I mean.

Comment by Brent
2008-03-03 22:25:07

No, just more focus.

Comment by Chris non-C
2008-03-04 04:19:00

Sweet, that we can work with. Looking forward to it.

 
 
 
Comment by rjlight
2008-03-03 23:09:34

I appreciate your serious side also, Brent. I have to admit though, I kept waiting for the punch line…

Comment by Brent
2008-03-03 23:17:30

Sorry.

 
 
Comment by MommyWithAttitude
2008-03-03 23:35:42

A blog takes on a life of its own — sometimes funny just isn’t on the agenda.

Was that a deep thought or no?

The other question I learned at midlife is, have I done what I’d set out to do, and if not do I still want to do it and if I do, I suppose I’d better get cracking because I may not have much time left!

Comment by Brent
2008-03-04 22:10:21

As each birthday arises, (cough, cough, hint, hint)it gets harder to ignore the fact that your Exit From Life is approaching at sixty minutes an hour.

It just makes you a little less wasteful of your time and energy.

Comment by don
2008-03-05 22:54:17

Define waste. Are people glad to see you? Do people that matter to you love you in return? Does making people laugh make you feel good? Isn’t a life well lived, with merriment and joy and a sense that you are doing something well, as important as anything else on this often incomprehensible globe?

Is that a booger on your shirt?

Opps. Sorry.

Comment by Brent
2008-03-05 23:09:40

You have an excellent point, spreading joy is not a waste. I was referring to other things like “needing” to keep up with cool show and the cool cars and the whole hamster wheel of stuff.

But that’s just me.

 
 
 
 
Comment by Alex L
2008-03-04 01:16:51

I dread the day people look to me for answers.

Comment by Brent
2008-03-04 10:06:14

Well, they will have to find you first and that is your advantage.

 
 
Comment by Lynn
2008-03-04 04:30:01

Are we waxing philosophical? Then, could you wax my car as well?

Comment by Brent
2008-03-04 22:12:54

So many places to go with wax:

Your legs? Your lip? Your commemorative plaque as One Of My Favorite Readers?

Sometimes it takes such restraint to play nice.

Comment by Lynn
2008-03-05 00:27:16

So you can wax my car then?

 
 
 
Comment by Theresa
2008-03-04 06:22:40

So, are you going to stop being funny? Or will you get even funnier? Are we supposed to reflect on this post and give you advice, or can we just sit around and wait for you to figure it out yourself? I’ll go over to Humor-Blogs while you work it out.

Comment by Brent
2008-03-04 07:21:36

I am going to vote for funnier. It’s just that every once in a while I have to get something off my chest before I can move on.

The last time this happened we had a good discussion on Martin Luther King Jr and where we are today as a county (it was amazingly non-political.)

So its okay.

 
 
Comment by Chris C
2008-03-04 10:49:19

so where’s this expert you speak of? Let me know when they arrive…

Comment by Brent
2008-03-04 22:15:00

You can’t miss them, they are all posting on how to get rich on the internet.

(Number one method - selling things to help people get rich on the internet.)

Comment by Lynn
2008-03-05 00:29:00

Number two method - taking out the competition.

Comment by Lynn
2008-03-05 00:31:18

Number three method - Becoming a total monopoly like Wal-Mart or your friendly local utitily company or Exxon.

 
 
 
 
Comment by Rickey Henderson
2008-03-04 11:02:17

Being ridiculously shallow, Rickey defines success by sitemeter hits on his blog.

Comment by Brent
2008-03-04 22:48:35

So your success rests upon the goodwill of Google? Clearly you are a man of courage.

 
 
Comment by Jeffrey Ellis
2008-03-04 11:03:07

The Serious Comma strikes again! Very nicely done. Reminds me of a famous quote:

“The wise man doesn’t give us the right answers, he poses the right questions.” — Claude Levi-Strauss (pretty smart for a guy who made cowboy clothing for a living)

Comment by Brent
2008-03-04 22:17:57

Thank you Jeffery, I don’t have the energy for matching serious and funny blogs like you do, so I blur the lines from time to time.

When I get a chance I’ll try to set up a separate feed or something so people can opt out of serious thinking. It’s quite exhausting you know.

Comment by Jeffrey Ellis
2008-03-05 10:01:09

I’ve found that over time I’m posting more and more on The Stinker and less and less on The Thinker. On reflection I don’t think it’s because I’m more funny than serious; I think it’s because I have an overwhelming creative urge. The Stinker is a creative outlet where I get to make something new, whereas The Thinker is more of a commentary/instructive/essay type site, and not so creative per se. If I had to do it all over again, I would probably have a humor blog with an occasional serious post, and/or use humor to try to make serious points about critical thinking, rather than try to run two blogs.

I guess that’s a long-winded way of saying I like the way you’ve gone about it.

 
 
 
Comment by VE
2008-03-04 12:34:49

I have all the answers. Just none of them are right…

Comment by Roann
2008-03-04 13:45:51

That’s ok. I have all the (rest of) the questions!

 
Comment by Brent
2008-03-04 22:18:55

I think I got the same list. Did you buy your out of the back of a comic book?

 
 
Comment by Debbie
2008-03-04 17:27:31

I really enjoy the Contemplative Comma. The questions you just posed frequent my brain as well Brent. Usually my reflective mood is sparked by feelings of sadness until I remember that sadness is an EXTREME just like happiness so as long as I’m content life is good.

Not to get too technical on you but I’ve been reading about conceptual metaphors and how they inspire the evolution of language and in turn the structure for literary theory and anthropology. Let’s say all thought is based on unconscious physical metaphors with beliefs determined by the metaphors in which these ideas are framed. Framing meaning our thinking depends on emotion and that a person’s rationality is bound by limitations of attention and memory. The implications of these frames are hard to understand because they are bound by our subconscious. So what I’m trying to imply here is that reasoning (contemplating one’s existence or purpose in life) may not be based on logic, facts, and a fit to reality but rather a series of conceptual metaphors gained through the abstract.

Brent, I think your mind is at crossroad (notice my use of a conceptual metaphor; relating your mind to a crossroad or journey of thoughts), and maybe you can take comfort in knowing the journey is far more interesting than the final destination.

Comment by Debbie
2008-03-04 17:29:30

Oh good grief my comment was way too long sorry!

 
Comment by Brent
2008-03-04 22:25:19

I am going to have to read up on conceptual metaphors, but I do understand the journey metaphor.

I am every bit as skeptical of someone who has “arrived” as I am of someone who has all the answers.

After all, if they have met all their goals so easily then maybe their bar wasn’t set very high.

Comment by Chris non-C
2008-03-04 23:27:04

I have seen that happen around some Air Force guys I once worked with. Their mantra was “aim low, avoid disappointment.”

This sounds like I am making a joke, but sadly it is totally true.

 
 
 
Comment by John O..
2008-03-04 17:30:28

“Some Men” obtain notoriety because of their wit and skill. While they impress the masses, their efforts only succeed as a distraction. They last only until “Some Man” comes along with a bigger distraction and history remembers them not.

“Great Men” obtain greatness not because of their skill or ability. They rise above themselves and their contemporaries because they take hold of a vision bigger then the sum of all they are worth. History claims to remember “Great Men”, but, truth be told it is the vision that is remembered.

Lord help me to be a “Great Man” instead of “Some Man”

John O.

Comment by Brent
2008-03-04 22:40:15

That kind of goes back to setting your bar high enough. (See Debbie’s comment above.)

I completely agree John, like we were talking about with MLK, some people look for causes they can use to promote themselves.

However, change comes when people can forget about themselves long enough to embrace a greater vision.

 
 
Comment by the commentator
2008-03-04 19:09:20

I totally understand this mid-blog crisis of sorts,B. I still have no clue what my blog is about and why I do it.

Comma’s are, sooo, misunderstood; that’s why they,are,misused.

Comment by Brent
2008-03-04 22:26:36

I suddenly feel so abused. There must be somewhere I can report this.

 
 
Comment by Bee
2008-03-04 20:28:42

The first two hit close to home since I know a couple of other people asking themselves those very questions.
It’ll be interesting to see what each find as their answer.
Hopefully something that will make them happy…

Comment by Brent
2008-03-04 22:47:17

Thank you Bee. I have found that happiness is a continually variable state, it comes and goes.

What is more easily held on to is contentment. Not that it is a piece of cake either.

Comment by Debbie
2008-03-05 11:58:36

I’m happy when I read this blog. (smile)

 
 
 
Comment by Sally
2008-03-04 23:48:12

I like all your questions. I’m still working on my answers. Everyday seems a stuggle. I try to stay focused on the end goal. The process feels a little like walking up a sand hill.

Comment by Lynn
2008-03-05 00:37:56

And sand hills always make me think of Luke Skywalker, which makes me think of their struggle to overthrown the evil emperor, which makes me think of flowers and weird hair styles, which leads me to shopping, then to food, and now I’m tired.

Comment by Debbie
2008-03-05 09:58:55

That’s exactly what I was thinking Lynn! You crack me up OC sista!

 
 
 
Comment by Debbie
2008-03-05 11:55:52

Ok, Lynn & Sally now those sand hills are making me think of this famous quote by an unknown (the best kind of quotes come from unknowns if you ask me…no personal agenda attached):

“You can’t leave footprints in the sands of time if you’re sitting on your butt, and who wants to leave butt prints in the sands of time?”

Ha! Well I made myself laugh anyway!

Comment by Brent
2008-03-05 15:04:01

That sounds like too much friction for me.

 
 
Comment by the frogster
2008-03-05 15:26:18

Either a thoughtful post about reaching a crossroads in life or a clever diversion because you couldn’t come up with anything that met your new standards of funny.

Either way, well done.

Comment by Lynn
2008-03-06 02:45:11

I’m sorry, were there old standards?

 
 
Comment by jeff
2008-03-06 00:38:27

I liked it. Introspective and real. I’ve asked myself those same questions myself.

 
Comment by Lynn
2008-03-06 02:46:54

The answer is: there is no spoon.

Comment by Brent
2008-03-06 07:13:40

I’m sure they are all sporks in your drawer.

 
 
Comment by Lori
2008-03-06 07:07:53

The comments were tons more fun then your actual post.

Hey, how did you find me? I thought I had copied and pasted your ‘blog fodder’ without your knowledge. And yet, you found it and you weeped. Should I be touched? Or are you?

Comment by Brent
2008-03-06 07:13:08

I hate to say it, but when it comes to comments every post is pretty much like that. They’re all just an excuse for people to start commenting. Someday we’ll just move this whole thing over to a forum and I’ll just retire.

As for finding you, I can’t say a lot about that except to be afraid, very very afraid.

Comment by Debbie
2008-03-06 10:40:52

Oh No No, I disagree. We need our Ominous Comma Leader or we would fall all over ourselves with no direction.

-Litte Commas

Comment by Lynn
2008-03-07 03:43:07

Awe, do you hear that, Debbie just called me skinny. “Litte commas.” Thank you Debbie. You are quite Litte yourself.

 
 
 
 
Comment by spooky
2008-03-06 18:12:30

I’m disappointed in you Brent, go and have a long look in the mirror and pull some funny faces, then write your next post and forget this ever happened

Comment by Brent
2008-03-07 16:18:41

I’m trying, Spooky, I’m trying. Must…squint…harder.

 
 
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